Have you ever been in the emotional crush? I guess Yes, good news not only you all of us!!
Thoughts about dating! Thoughts about relationships! Is it a must to be with someone (boyfriend, girlfriend)? maybe get married especially when all the people around you talks about it all the time! Let me talk about something so important before taking any decision or talk about relations in general.
Eve “women” feels like she has to attract Adam “men” am I right? You behave in order to grab the attention of a man? she tries to pursue him, tries to change major things in her character only to satisfy him even if she don't like it!
I have a question for you; does it not make the man feel the woman is easy and we are aware of that? But why we are doing this and keep doing it time by time. I just kept asking myself why?
The only answers I found were low self esteem, lust, sin, and this was a conclusion of not having a personal relationship with the Author of love my heavenly father my creator my God.
I've done the dating scene already and I made many mistakes along the way, it was "normal" for me just like it is for you today but when we compare "normal" to godly principles, "normal" really is not that normal anymore. What do you think? I just want to give you a different perspective on the subject so you won't have to go through all the hurt and other emotional and sexual garbage that comes with dating and emotional crush.
Remember you don't need to "attract" a man! just be yourself! exactly who we are is just enough. Everybody is special and everybody has his or her own special qualities that naturally attract people but if we behave in ways that make us do something different from the normal just to attract guys then we are not being honest with ourselves. If we are not honest with ourselves then we don't know who we are. If we do not have a positive identity of who we are, how on earth can we attract good people into our life? The best policy is always to be yourself, whatever that self may be.
What kind of a relationship are you looking for? Do you want to be respected and valued for who you are, or do you want to be disrespected and humiliated as a person? When we try too hard to attract a man into our lives we actually attract, shallow, arrogant guys that are only out for one thing “physically relationship”. Is that what you are looking for in a relationship? If so, then have at it but if you are a good girl, then just be yourself and you will attract the right man to you.
When we take off the mask and begin living our life as a child of God, a beautiful worthwhile human being, we attract good people to us, the more we feel the need to wear clothing that does not betray the person we are, and when we say and do things that are not really who we are, we attract shallow people into our lives this is why most dating relationships do not work! Most dating relationships are shallow and emotionally exhausting and demanding because they are full of unmetneeds and emotions.
Girl, whatever your age is! Be wise, do not be in a big hurry to have a man in your life, the more you feel pressured, the more likely you are to behave in ways that are not really who you really are, or to hang out with the wrong crowd and wrong friends! Be wise in choose your friends! If it’s necessary to awaken love then choose to awaken a passion for God rather than a passion for the opposite sex!
We have everything we need in Him! we get our worth from him. In him we are complete and men do not complete us as people say; stop listening when they say there is something missing in your life if you are not married.
I’ve heard an analogy, we’re running our track to God, our head is straight forward looking to Him as we run. We’re running. Then suddenly we notice someone running right next to us, a man. He’s also running the same track to God, he’s at the same place as we are, and we then run to God together. We never stop running to God, we never run to each other.
There is no pressure to have a man by your side, pray about this and ask God to give you the patience and faith to wait on Him. Meanwhile it’s a chance to get to know your self better, know your needs and weaknesses and strength, also where do you stand as a child of God? What is God's purpose for your life as a woman?
What are you doing now that will help prepare you for being a wife and mother someday? Do you think that God wants you to behave in ways that are not the person He created you to be?
God has created a special man to be your husband someday, I say "someday" because he wants you to be ready for the "commitment of marriage". Do you want really to betray your man your husband! You will love him even when you don't feel like loving, are you ready for that?
The bottom line is God created us to love and to be loved that means no one needs to be something other than what God made him or her to be, we should do our best to become all of the person we can become "through our Creator our heavenly father" and then we will learn the wisdom to loving and respecting others appropriately, there will be no need "to attract" or "to be something we are not".
You should know what the true definition of love from the Author of love:
This is my commandment: Love each other in the same way I have loved you (John 15:12).
Love does no wrong to others, so love fulfills the requirements of God's law(Romans 13:10).
The picture of love that the Bible paints is different than what we see in movies (Bella & Edward) or hear on our iPods, the world tells us that love is Lust, jealousy, sin, using each other and abusing each other, and it’s a conditional love, it comes and goes…
The author of love tells us that love is demonstrated by what Jesus did for us which was sacrificing himself for our good, true love doesn't hurt others just to satisfy a desire or look good in public.
Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
1 Corinthians 13: 4-7
The way that we treat each other is either a great way to bring up the gospel or it can completely ruin the chance. Think about how you treat friends at your school and ask yourself does it get in the way of me sharing the gospel?
"'You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.' This is the first and greatest commandment. A second is equally important:'Love your neighbor as yourself'
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